Isn’t it funny that we fill up our time saying yes to things that often leave us depleted? It’s a trap that can falsely make you feel “productive.” And apparently a lot of us have fallen into it (I’m guilty of it, too).
Being “crazy-busy” or, having a “doing-it-all” mindset, has become the norm in our society. It creates a vicious cycle where we end up putting ourselves at the bottom of our priority list because we have overcommitted our time. Let’s face it, it just isn’t easy to take care of ourselves. Begrudgingly, I realized I needed to re-frame the concept of MY time. I could no longer rob myself of a good night’s rest because the wee hours gave me more time in my day. I promised myself to stop saying I was crazy-busy. My time on this planet is precious, so I wanted to be much smarter about it. I’m so glad I did, and there is no one happier than me that self-care has become a “national phenomenon.”
I recently heard Arianna Huffington talk about her New York Times bestseller, The Sleep Revolution, and how we spend more time re-charging our smartphones than we do our own bodies. That really struck a chord.
The first thing I committed to doing was scheduling time WITH MYSELF. Twenty minute chunks daily, without digital screens. Then, I took it a step further and created a sacred space for that special time, which completely transformed my life. These moments were like mini-vacations in my day. Time to be creative, relax, be still, write in a notebook, drink tea, listen to music, whatever fed my soul. Creating time and a special place for myself was empowering. At home, my tub became one of my favorite sacred spaces. Being able to lock the door meant it became my private sanctuary. Being able to spend a few moments in a meditative state, in the warm, salty, aromatic water is magical and centering. I could — and did — shift my energy and my mindset whenever I needed to. So if you lack space, but have a bathtub, you can easily escape to a private retreat without doing anything radical. If you are inspired to create a space that helps you connect to your inner spirit, check out the tips in this great article.
The most fascinating part about being disciplined to schedule time to connect with yourself is it how it brings more energy, focus, and amazingly, more purpose-driven activity to the forefront. For sure, I am more intentional about my calendar. I am still a person who enjoys a very full, family/work centered life. As a creative entrepreneur, I typically have a lot of big projects that I’m working on at once. But, I no longer say yes to pointless distractions, or anything that doesn’t align with my priorities. The best part about being more thoughtful about my self-care, and drilling down to what is essential in my life, is I’m more in the flow, and more present. Maybe it’s because I know when things get chaotic, I have my sacred space waiting for me. It’s not an external place I need to get to.
So, time is my friend. This moment is the best moment. Being present means never being crazy-busy again. For me, it means enjoying all the puzzle pieces that make up a life. And when you find something that brings you joy and connects you to your heart and soul, by all means — make time for it!